I know, I know…it’s not good grammar to end a sentence with a preposition (Well, it’s actually O.K. to end some sentences with prepositions, but this isn’t a grammar lesson.) What I’m getting at is this: We all become the average of the 5 people with whom we spend the most time. So, I’ll ask you again: Who are you the average of?
Interesting concept to ponder, isn’t it?
Take a look at the people that you’re spending your time with because whether you realize it or not, they have a strong influence on you. Take a look at how they live their lives. Do they spend every dime they make? If so, chances are good that you do the same. Do they spend their nights and weekends bellied up to the local bar? Probably you do, too. If they’re not readers, there’s a good chance that you’re not spending any time reading, either. What about their income? It’s highly likely that you earn within a few thousand dollars of what they’re earning.
The people that you’re spending your time with are influencing your every move. They’re impacting what you think about, what you listen to, what you’re reading, where you’re going in life.
Now ask yourself: Are you heading in the right direction to achieve your goals? Is this where you want to be?
Hard question. It deserves a long, hard look. It might be that the people that you’re spending your time with are a fabulous influence on you. Congratulations! But if they’re not a great influence, what are you going to do about it?
Are you willing to make the hard choices that will allow you to become all that you want to become?
Successful people surround themselves with other successful people. They immerse themselves in excellence; they seek it out in all they say and do. It could be said that successful people have a passion for excellence.
What are you passionate about?
If you want to improve your standing (I’m not talking about social status or economic status, though those apply as well), you must begin to surround yourself with people who share common goals with you. Surround yourself with people who make you think, people who challenge you to reach out and grab hold of greatness.
If you want to be great, be great! Fill your mind with great things – read great books, see great movies, eat fine food – do everything that you can afford to do to keep yourself in the company of greatness.
If you want to be a leader, seek out other men and women whose leadership abilities you admire and respect. If you want what they have, do what they do. Spend time with them; become a student and learn from them.
Take note: This doesn’t only apply to financial success. If you want to have a better marriage, be a better parent, have a more satisfying spiritual life, or improve your own fitness level, find someone that has what you want, spend time with them and ask them how they did it. Listen and learn from them.
But be careful as you strive to become the best that you can be: It’s important to have role models to follow, but choose them carefully. Be selective about the qualities that you want to emulate in the individuals that you admire. When you’re choosing a role model, seek excellence; cultivate high quality relationships and pursue excellence in everything you do and say and with everyone that you associate with. Water seeks its own level, and excellence WILL rub off!